Daniel Kelly: When Belief Dies

Atheism, Autonomy, Deconstruction, Deconversion, Hell Anxiety, LGBTQ+, Podcast, Podcasters, Purity Culture, Unequally yoked
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My guest this week is Daniel Kelly, the new co-host of When Belief Dies. Daniel began as a Charismatic Christian, moved to an Orthodox Christian church and eventually was at a Bible church that preached through every verse in the bible.

Daniel was a dedicated Christian working in a Christian non-profit helping those with disabilities. His mother had MS when he grew up so he was focused on helping his family through difficult times and did not always get to be a kid.

I believed I had to be perfect and I had to be helpful to everyone in order to be valuable.

Daniel’s feminism and belief in the humanity of the LGBTQ community, led to moral objections to some of the harder Biblical passages that do not uphold the humanity and full autonomy of everyone. His serious investigations into theology and the Bible were some of the early seeds that led to deconversion.

The grief Daniel experienced leaving the faith and the loss were profound. He lost his faith, his community, the health of his relationship and on top of that the pandemic hit. He was isolated and alone. He experienced “Hell Anxiety” and worried he was a “vessel of wrath.” The first year after deconversion was one of the most difficult of his life.

He made it through and today he is the co-host of the When Belief Dies podcast. He is building healthy relationships and restoring family relations. He is experiencing the freedom to love people unconditionally.


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Sam and Daniel interview me

Daniel and I interview Sam

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2 thoughts on “Daniel Kelly: When Belief Dies

  1. I can relate so much with what has been talked about here. As a child my parents were missionaries and I always had an intense love for God and loved him with all my heart. When my beliefs started to evaporate it felt like I was throwing away everything that I loved. All but one of my friends at the time more or less rejected me but more than that, I felt like I was rejecting myself, because my faith was my identity. It would have been so easy to just go along and walk the walk and talk the talk, and keep my friends. But I just couldn’t do it.

    Those transitioning years were hard. And telling my parents was even harder, because it felt like I was slapping them in the face and telling them I thought everything they had taught me was useless–which isn’t what I was saying, but it felt like it.

    I only just recently started blogging again, which is something I have been avoiding because all my followers (all 5 of them) are christian and know me personally. And now it feels like I’m going through it all again, they’re telling me I was never a real christian in the first place, or my rejection of God was because I had a desire to partake in sinful pleasures of the flesh. (Which is not true because all my life I have been celibate, probably because I don’t know how to love anyone with the intensity that I loved my God.) And it still hurts, because I understand why they are saying what they are saying, and what’s worse it that I probably would have said the same things.

    I agree with Daniel, I wouldn’t wish the journey on anyone. I was lucky though, because my family still loves me, and we can still talk.

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